Kylie Kelce Shares What Not To Inform Pregnant Folks

There’s one thing that appears to magically occur the second you’re visibly pregnant—everybody round you immediately feels the necessity to inform you precisely what’s on their thoughts about your physique and life decisions.

Kylie Kelce, who’s anticipating her fourth little one, talked in regards to the puzzling feedback folks make about being pregnant through the January 9, 2025 episode of her Not Gonna Lie podcast—and was so proper on together with her observations.

By means of introducing her phase, “The Dos and Don’ts of What To Say to Pregnant Girls,” Kelce mentioned, “This week, child lady has positively popped, so there isn’t any extra hiding her. Stretchy pants are in full power, as is commentary from associates, household, and, in fact, excellent strangers.”

As I’m presently 9 months pregnant, I discovered myself nodding alongside together with her whole record.

What Kylie Kelce Thinks You Shouldn’t Inform Pregnant Folks

Right here is Kelce’s information for anybody on the market who encounters a pregnant particular person and is tempted to share their inside monologue: 

Do not touch upon their dimension

In accordance with the soon-to-be mother of 4, “This contains feedback like, ‘You are large.’ ‘How a lot weight have you ever gained?’ ‘Are you positive it is not twins?’” I had a detailed member of the family ask that final query just lately, considering they have been being intelligent. The fact is that I cried for days. Who needs to be instructed that they seem like they’re having multiple child after they’re not? I additionally heard this gem recently: “Wow, you look prepared.” Effectively, I’m 9 months pregnant, so… how would you want me to look?

Do preserve your opinion to your self about their child identify

“If she chooses to share it with you, really feel privileged sufficient that you simply get to know that data,” is Kelce’s recommendation. I want some folks in my life had gotten this memo. After I reluctantly shared my child identify with a number of members of the family, I received a clean stare and a faint, “Huh?” Why ask in case your response goes to make me really feel upset? 

Do not ask if they are going to preserve attempting for a boy

Kelce, who’s already a mother to a few little ladies, didn’t mince phrases about her emotions towards this query. “If one other particular person asks me that, I am warning you proper now, you may get drop kicked. I need not have a boy,” she mentioned. As a mother who had three ladies first, I’ve heard the identical query roughly one million instances. It’s sort of like, properly, it wasn’t actually in my management, so I’ll simply be pleased with having a wholesome child and skip the lecture about how your loved ones isn’t full except you’ve gotten a baby of every gender.

Do ask your pregnant buddy how they’re feeling

As Kelce joked, “Asking this query implies that you recognize she positively appears like s**t, and you might want to just remember to’re ready to get her sincere opinion.” I believe this query is a secure one too, however I positively calibrate my reply relying on who asks. My finest buddy? I’ll be sincere about what number of instances I’ve peed my pants within the third trimester. The lady testing my groceries? “I’m doing fairly good,” is all she’s going to seek out out.

Do not touch upon nursing

My blood additionally boils over this pet peeve of Kelce’s. As a result of, truth: You’re not a greater father or mother when you breastfeed. And but, I as soon as had a neighbor have a look at me with disdain as a result of I used to be bottle feeding my daughter. Because the podcaster notes, in actuality, the components that play into whether or not somebody nurses are nobody’s enterprise. “The entire breast is finest nonsense—the one motive you are saying that’s to take different girls down. Generally it is not within the playing cards,” Kelce opined. Right here, right here!

Do not reveal particulars of your traumatic delivery expertise

This one is particularly sensitive for me as a result of I’ve a whole lot of fears round being pregnant and delivery after having suffered a number of miscarriages. As soon as, with only a few weeks to go together with one in every of my pregnancies, a buddy shared that she suffered a stillbirth, which was particularly triggering. I got here dwelling and sobbed. Look, I need associates to confide in me in regards to the traumas of their lives. The timing was simply onerous on my finish—so I’ve to agree with Kelce right here.

Do ask for permission earlier than touching their stomach

“Preserve your arms to your self. It is so easy. Do not contact somebody except they’ve given you permission,” Kelce shared as a PSA for pregnant folks all over the place. And we collectively thanks. P.S., identical goes for touching a new child. Palms off!

Do not inform them they’re glowing

I hear this rather a lot too, and I wish to say, “I’m simply sizzling and really feel like I’m going to go out, however thanks.” That mentioned, individuals are simply attempting to be good, and I’ll take “You’re glowing” over “You seem like you’re having twins” any day of the week!

I’ll add yet one more “Don’t” to this record, and it pertains to the very finish of being pregnant. Don’t ask me if I’ve had the child but. I’m receiving numerous texts and individuals are asking my husband, “Did she ship?” 

To everybody who’s asking, I do know you’re curious and possibly even excited for me. However inquiries like this could really feel like a whole lot of strain when each waking hour of my life is crammed with nervousness over when this child will likely be born. Belief me, while you see me with a child, your query will likely be answered. Till then, you’ll have to attend identical to me.

Not Going to Lie with Kylie Kelce, a Wave Sports activities + Leisure Authentic, debuts weekly on Thursdays.